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Bria Kiara's avatar

This had no business being as funny as it was. Subbed.

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Jessica Mills's avatar

Welcome to the clurbbbb🕺🏽🤣

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Rea de Miranda's avatar

I know the power of rituals to help me survive. Little acts of order, before my mind floats off to a neverland. Wonderful post Jessica!

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Jessica Mills's avatar

Thank you, Rea!😁

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su 🍸's avatar

oh my gosh i absolutely love this!!

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Nsisong Udo's avatar

I so much love this that I'm going to read it all over again, slowly this time.

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Justine Lloyd's avatar

Brilliantly captured. Love your honesty and writing. Survival mode is a tough place. Big 🫂 💛

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ash's avatar

This, all of this. Nothing feels within my control except those tiny little things that bring me joy even if it's only fleeting.

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Leah Welborn's avatar

I so adore your writing and am discombobulated by how much it resonates (I had to google ASDA, tho).

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Jessica Mills's avatar

Thank you so much!🥺If you are American, it’s Walmart (same company, different name for the UK)

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Quietly Winning's avatar

I didn't cry for 20 years. That isn't a good thing. It nearly killed me. Never be ashamed of crying. That is a pressure relief valve for your soul.

Second, it's ok to unplug. I used to love Reddit, but it's clearly a propaganda platform run by bots and special interests, not people. I installed browser addons that let me silence whole subreddits because I find their nonsense so hateful. It is ok to silence voices that only cost you emotional currency, and never supply it. I suggest you also carve out the 'news' sources that only ever upset you, and never (consistently) bring you wisdom.

Third, nobody can fix or address every problem. I certainly can't. I remember the parable of The Good Samaritan every time I see someone on the side of the road. But once I'm home and have time to think, I remember some good advice: "You are overfull". I have enough stress in my life, I don't need to add someone else's on top of my own.

Fourth, you are the living embodiment of Jordan Peterson's "make your bed" and it fills me with such joy. You get it. Step 1. Make your bed. The reasons why you do it, the act itself, all of it. That's the first of his rules for life. Keep going!

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