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Ariadne Pautina's avatar

Every. Word. Every single word.

I had to wait years to leave so I could save, so I could plan… it’s hard. And I’m lucky, I have a decent job and decent pay… but it still took time and that time left me with C-PTSD and a whole host of other issues which I’ll never recover from.

Thank you for these powerful words.

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Jason Tiller's avatar

What a powerful statement to approach people's situations from their own perspectives and nor from our own perspectives.

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Dear Mooney's avatar

This is so real. People act like leaving is just about courage, but no one talks about the cost — rent, bills, food, childcare. It’s not weakness, it’s literally math. Staying isn’t always a lack of strength, sometimes it’s survival. And honestly? That’s smart. ❤️

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Joey Hespe's avatar

We need more conversations like this. No one talks about why women can't leave. Thank you for opening this up x

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Ella Persephone's avatar

Exactly. This is just another way they blame women for struggling in a society designed to keep them as property, not as equals.

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Rebecca's avatar

I feel seen, so much. I have had these exact same thoughts about my relationship.

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Heart Gone Rogue's avatar

"They stay because even the heartbreak novels assume you have somewhere else to go." So many great lines here, Jessica. So much truth it makes my heart ache.

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Topper Sherwood's avatar

Strange to feel so fortunate that wife & I can afford to live separately.... (Thanks, in part, to German soshie system.....)

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Rea de Miranda's avatar

Many are stuck where they don't want to be. Sadly.

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Megan C's avatar

no, no one tells you this.

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