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Anna Ray's avatar

you should write a book

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Clint Mashariki's avatar

Great writing. I understand the depth of emotion in this. As a man who lives by the Bible as his standard in life, I am yet to find one verse that implores a man to ascertain whether or not his wife is a virgin on their wedding night. To say it is a construct of man and not of God is accurate. So I'll speak of what God says through St. Paul. Chastity is expected of the man as it is of the woman. There is no partiality. "It is well for a man not to touch a woman ..." 1 Corinthians 7:1 says, advocating for sex only within the confines of marriage, for both parties. It goes on to say in verses 3 and 4: "The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does." Ephesians 5:28 lays down the most fundamental principle as far as sex is concerned. It says "Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself." This is what the Bible says. If one is led with true love, they have no time to check for virginity. It is meant to feed the ego of vile men. There is literally a captain of the army who married a prostitute named Rahab. She ended up being one of the matriarchs in the geneaology of Jesus Christ.

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Lisa Blume's avatar

Be still my heart. I think I’m in love. THANK you for this.

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Esther Stanway-Williams's avatar

Hallelujah 🙌

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Jenn at Joy Muck Club's avatar

Absolutely loved this! Your writing is so intelligent and biting, I couldn't stop reading. This made me think of Witch by Lisa Lister, which I think it's time for me to reread.

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Rea de Miranda's avatar

You made me laugh so hard, I almost fell off my chair!! 🤣

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Celler Door's avatar

Could you provide the longitude and latitude of this so called clit?

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Healing Out Loud's avatar

This is a damn masterpiece. Cliterature, if you will.

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ruthie's avatar

I love the title lol

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Teddi's avatar

It is not a seal and is not a freshness sticker absolutely love it.Ownership control and isolation it’s what rules the world I think the fist Yes and the first No is perfect .Thank You

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Sae Abiola's avatar

❤️❤️🥰🥰

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Thomx's avatar

Bread sounds like a real Alpha.

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ru ♡'s avatar

i love this so much.

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Taylor V's avatar

This was great. You had me laughing throughout the whole thing. It is definitely a bizarre way of thinking, and I think your words succeeded in showing that bizarreness.

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Corathy's avatar

Love it ! Another great post. Thank you !

Honestly, as I get older I realized something. Sex is better with someone who knows what they are doing.

People, how do we get to be better at something? Practice. It's not magic.

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Jody Frost's avatar

Brilliant piece!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Good Lord! It's fucking amazing to me that with the vast amount of knowledge available to us via google, how ignorant we continue to be about women's worth relative to our sexual equipment and experience. Virginity? I lost mine at age 7 the first time I waterskied and got a massive lake douche.

As you suggested, we lose our metaphorical virginity the day we have a pleasure-filled experience with another that WE CHOSE! And someone mentioned "cliterature" (Love that!!)! Apparently, we need a lot more of it! That should be a category in writing! It's astounding that everyone doesn't know that the clit, that little pearl nestled at the top of our inner lips, snuggled in between the outer lips of our vulvas has more than 10 thousand nerve ending in it. Clearly, it is not up in the depth of our vaginas that requires the length of a penis to stimulate it. And while I'm ranting, consider that the clit was designed by the master artist for one reason only, no dual function here! Its sole purpose for being is to give us pleasure! Why aren't there giant sculptures of it across the world like penises where parades and celebrations take place to worship at it's altar>>>? Know what I'm sayin'? ☺️🤩

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