For me, safety feels like the right word when it’s referring to how I feel in the relationship, but not about the man, if you get me. I don’t want to feel anxious, or like I need to be anyone different, I want to feel like I’m loved for who I am.
Now, before I got married last year I was absolutely concerned that my now husband was too safe. 😂I was terrified I was ‘settling’ because I saw so many people in marriages, where it felt like they just weren’t even bothered about each other. Or where they’d lost their entire identity as an individual.
But ultimately we’re fiery but also chill together and he excites me more than anyone I know. I frickin’ love how much joy growing together brings me! And I think he’d refer to me as a wildcard option rather than safe so that’s great 😂
This sounds perfect for you! I get the comparing to other peoples relationships part, as I see so many people doing it. Every relationship is so utterly different, and I find that quite beautiful. I also get the safety comment!🫶🏼
Relationships aren’t serious or long lasting anymore. You hear women about to get married say, Oh he’s just my starter husband. My question is, then why get married. And I think too many have bought into the Hollywood Delusional type of love. Just like in the fairy tales, it doesn’t exist. True love takes work and I have not met a woman in a very long time who is willing t do the work. So as I said, WHY BOTHER????
It’s honestly such an uphill battle. I know I personally don’t look for it, I’m so happy being single and just working on myself. If that’s me for the rest of my life, so be it😂I’d rather be single and create a community of friends who are family and work on myself, than be with someone for the sake of “just” being with someone (which is see far too much😅). If we stumble across someone, then perfect. If not.. oh well?
For me, safety feels like the right word when it’s referring to how I feel in the relationship, but not about the man, if you get me. I don’t want to feel anxious, or like I need to be anyone different, I want to feel like I’m loved for who I am.
Now, before I got married last year I was absolutely concerned that my now husband was too safe. 😂I was terrified I was ‘settling’ because I saw so many people in marriages, where it felt like they just weren’t even bothered about each other. Or where they’d lost their entire identity as an individual.
But ultimately we’re fiery but also chill together and he excites me more than anyone I know. I frickin’ love how much joy growing together brings me! And I think he’d refer to me as a wildcard option rather than safe so that’s great 😂
This sounds perfect for you! I get the comparing to other peoples relationships part, as I see so many people doing it. Every relationship is so utterly different, and I find that quite beautiful. I also get the safety comment!🫶🏼
This! All of this! 🖤
love me like u do- lo-lo-love like u do 🫵😔
Relationships aren’t serious or long lasting anymore. You hear women about to get married say, Oh he’s just my starter husband. My question is, then why get married. And I think too many have bought into the Hollywood Delusional type of love. Just like in the fairy tales, it doesn’t exist. True love takes work and I have not met a woman in a very long time who is willing t do the work. So as I said, WHY BOTHER????
It’s honestly such an uphill battle. I know I personally don’t look for it, I’m so happy being single and just working on myself. If that’s me for the rest of my life, so be it😂I’d rather be single and create a community of friends who are family and work on myself, than be with someone for the sake of “just” being with someone (which is see far too much😅). If we stumble across someone, then perfect. If not.. oh well?
You should listen to this song by Calvin Harris and Jessie Reyez
https://open.spotify.com/track/6KdmNK9MogmGcnO3wNZHhp?si=7XELGoOFQfmh5iJwd-LLfw
love this!!!!!! also wanting to connect w other writers so want to be mutuals?🌟🌟